What Is Give A Shift?
First, you need to know that I love puns.
You’ve been warned.
Where did Give A Shift come from?
I was taught my whole life to “lean in” and to get a seat at the table where the important meetings happen.
And that’s exactly what I did for 25 years.
After graduating from the University of Connecticut’s School of Business, I immediately got a job at an ad agency in New York.
Being the new kid on the block, I knew I had to work extra hard to prove myself.
This meant working 12 hour days and often on weekends in order to meet the seemingly endless demands from often unappreciative clients. Eventually, I rose to the top of this small boutique agency. I was traveling all over the world and making a lot of money for a 20-something-year-old.
That wasn’t enough, so I then went on to pursue my Master’s Degree. I felt this would give me a badge I could proudly display.
My corporate climb continued until there was nowhere else for me to climb.
Phew. I made it, right?!
I did what any determined executive would do: I started my own company.
I founded my own marketing agency and using sheer grit, determination, and a 7-day work week, I grew this start-up from 0 to 7-figures in 18 months.
I had it all, right?!
The problem was that I leaned in so far that I fell over…
Because eventually, my world came crashing down around me.
My 3-year old daughter came home from preschool to give me a card she had made for me for Mother’s Day.
This was a kind of fill in the blank card where the teachers had pre-written sentences and phrases and then helped the children fill in the blank as it relates to his or her mom.
One of the fill in the blanks was, “My mom’s job is to________________________________.
And this is how my daughter answered that question:
“My mom’s job is to sleep at work.”
I read those words and suddenly it felt as if my world stopped.
What my daughter meant was that mommy was never home.
Mommy traveled so much and was always sleeping in hotels and so in her little, sweet, innocent 3-year-old mind, mommy’s job was to sleep at work.
I was obviously aware that I was gone a lot. But I always justified it.
It’s for the sake of our family.
It’s for the sake of the kid’s futures.
Eventually, I will slow down and be able to enjoy the fruits of my hard labor, but not now, I thought.
Now is for working so much that I choose to leave my family week after week.
Now is for working as much as possible chasing every dollar I could.
But it was all for them, right?
In that moment everything changed. I changed.
I started to Give A Shift.
I began to question everything I thought I knew to be true.
I began to turn my focus inward instead of outward.
I began questioning my purpose.
Who was I?
What was I put on this earth to do?
What kind of business do I really want to create?
What does it really take to be successful and what does success even look like?
What do I want MY LIFE to look like?
And then it hit me. I had spent my whole life trying to be accomplished when all I really wanted was to be FREE!
I had become trapped in a prison of my own making.
But I wanted to be FREE.
FREE from constantly feeling the need to prove myself!
FREE from feeling stressed out trying to do it all!
FREE from feeling guilty any time I wasn’t working, yet at the same time, free from feeling guilty for not being with my family!
FREE from believing that I had to practically kill myself in order to make money and create the life and business I wanted!
FREE to have the life and business OF MY DREAMS!!
FREE To have ANYTHING I WANT without explanation or justification to anyone!!
In finding my freedom, I discovered that I could help other women like me, find theirs.
The Give A Shift System
Helping women live a full life, is my purpose.
Give A Shift is a daily life system that gives women the ability to engineer their own realities and attain unprecedented levels of success in every area of their lives.
I began to realize that I wasn’t the only woman who had “leaned in” only to find they weren’t living a life they love.
More and more women are finding the courage to live a life of freedom.
Okay, Mel isn’t a woman over 40 like me, but he is wearing makeup and a skirt so he can be an honorary member of my tribe.
As our friend above discovered, wanting freedom and finding freedom isn’t the same thing.
The path to freedom isn’t always a clear or easy journey.
Breaking Through The Bullshift
Wouldn’t it be great to have somebody who’s been down that path before to guide you?
Oh hello, that’s me.
The biggest roadblocks on the path to freedom and living your best life are the old outdated belief systems we base our lives on.
I call these Bullshifts!
Once these Bullshifts are busted, we are able to engineer our lives the way we want them to be.
We can live lives full of love, passion, joy, and happiness
Lives built on serving and giving not getting and taking.
Blissful, abundant lives from which we attract more financial abundance than we ever thought possible without killing ourselves or sacrificing our families to do so.
True lasting success comes from living a life of purpose and meaning.
It means valuing your time with those you love most.
It means giving and serving others first and foremost.
It means imagining what success on your terms looks like.
Once you do this, you too will be free to engineer your own reality any way you want it to be.
You will Give A Shift.
Many of us have heard the phrase, “That which you focus on expands.” In other words, “thoughts become things.”
But how many of us actually understand how and why this is true?
Enter quantum physics.
For most of my life, I was caught between science and spirituality. I wanted to believe what the great spiritual teachers were preaching — it felt so right and natural, and it made perfect sense to me. But just when I was on the verge of becoming a believer, my scientific intuition would kick in and make me want to prove it.
Luckily for me, I was raised by a self-proclaimed quantum psychics fanatic for a father.
If you aren’t familiar with quantum mechanics, let me explain. For centuries, scientists believed that the atom was the smallest unit of measure. They believed that all physical matter was made of these atomic particles. But it turns out, there is nothing really physical about anything at all.
Using particle accelerators, physicists have been able to break down the atom into subatomic particles. What they have discovered is that subatomic particles are impulses of information and energy. But what makes them fascinating is they can behave like both a wave and a particle at the same time.
Moreover, subatomic particles have the ability to be in more than one place at the same time, and that’s not all. This impulse, or vibration, of quantum energy becomes either a wave or a particle the moment it is observed by the human mind, and then attracts other impulses of energy that vibrate at the same frequency.
This literally means that we create something and it expands by attracting other things that are similar to it. Pretty astonishing when you think about it, huh?
And, when I realized this, my two worlds of science and spirituality came dancing beautifully together. Suddenly, I understood what the phrase “thoughts become things” actually meant–and why it is so.
We can use the same principles that science uses to create physical reality out of non-physical essence and use it to have, do or be anything we want and experience happiness and fulfillment to any degree we choose.
This knowledge is truly a gift for anyone who recognizes and knows how to apply it to their daily lives. With this knowledge, you can use your thoughts to become the deliberate creator of your own life experiences rather than leaving your life to mere chance, and know why it works.
As quantum physicist Niel Bohr has said, “Everything we call real is made of things that cannot be regarded as real. If quantum mechanics hasn’t profoundly shocked you, you haven’t understood it yet.”
A dear friend of mine once said that helping and serving others is like Miracle-Gro for your life. I couldn’t agree more.
For me, sharing my message with the world is one way that I get to serve others. But service comes in many shapes and sizes. Anything we can do each day that helps someone else, makes someone feel brighter, grateful, or happy is a way to serve. Service comes various currencies, such as your time, your effort, and yes, your money, no matter how big or how small.
Service gives each of us the power to literally make the world a better, more peaceful, more joyful place. How cool is that? We actually can change the world, and that’s why I love it so much!
But service does more than transform our world. Living a life dedicated to serving others will transform you, too. Your life will begin to change in new and exciting ways. You will see opportunities surface that would not have seen otherwise. You will notice people reacting to you differently, eager to be around you. You will carry a new aura that will become like a magnet to all good things, to the things you envision for your ideal life; and you will see them manifest right before your eyes. Finally, you will simply be a happier person. Deep in your core, you will be full of joy, life, and energy, ready to serve the world!
So, let me ask you: How do YOU serve? Let me know the things you have done–or can do–each day to help others in the comments below. Your ideas will help inspire others to follow in your footsteps. Serve us by sharing how you serve others.
“Just be like the river, Megan,” was a phrase I heard over and over growing up from my mother.
When I was younger, my Mom dabbled in spirituality. She explored Buddhism, Native American philosophy, and Taoism. And she extracted bits of each and shared her wisdom with my sister and me. But this phrase in particular always stood out for me.
“What do you mean, Mom?” I would inquire. And my gentle, wise Mom would explain her interpretation of one of the most fundamental Taoist philosophies.
Water is one of the most profound symbols in the entire Tao Te Ching. Lau Tso uses water as a metaphor for how to live a God-conscious life, a life connected to Source Energy, a life connected to the Invisible Intelligence that created the entire Universe. It is a metaphor for how to live an enlightened life, free of competition, envy and jealousy, a life free from resistance, regardless of what may come its way.
When a river is flowing, there are always obstacles that get in its way. Some small ones like pebbles and twigs, others are massive like boulders and entire trees. But none of it ever stops the water’s progressions, no matter how large it may be. The water always finds a way to keep going. It will go over it, under it, or around, but it keeps going nonetheless. And it always takes the path of least resistance and eventually creates a new path forward.
Water is both exquisitely soft and yet mighty and powerful enough to wear down the tallest of mountains. It is patient without exception.
And water is also a symbol of the Tao, of God. It is invisible, yet everywhere. It is odorless, colorless, and tastelessness yet is the essence of all that lives.
While much of the Tao uses water as a metaphor, verse 8 does so in an extraordinary way:
“The supreme good is like water,
which nourishes all of creation
without trying to compete with it.
It gathers in the low places unpopular with men.
Thus it is like the Tao.
Live in accordance with the nature of things.
In dwelling, live close to the ground.
In thinking, keep to the simple.
In dealing with others, be fair and generous.
In governing, do not try to control.
In work, do what you enjoy.
In family life, be completely present.
When you are content to be simply yourself,
and don’t compare or compete,
everybody will respect you.
One who lives in accordance with nature
does not go against the way of things.
He moves in harmony with the present moment,
always knowing the truth of just what to do.”
Now that I have read the Tao Te Ching myself, I can see precisely what Mom meant all those years ago. Every day I use this metaphor of water in my own life. And now I have passed that incredibly profound wisdom onto my own children.
So remember to use water in your own life to guide you, offer you reassurance, and to remain connected to Source.
“Nothing in the world is softer or weaker than water
Yet nothing is better at overcoming the hard and strong.” (78.1-2)
Yes, every day I try to be like the river, just like Mom said. Thanks, Mom.
Recently I had the pleasure and privilege of being part of the Empowered Mamas Summit, a FREE online event, organized by the incredible Carmen Rosas. (You can check it out here: http://tinyurl.com/yc92b5k4).
During my interview, Carmen asked me what being empowered means to me. I think that’s a really interesting question and something that not many people think about. My answer to Carmen might surprise you because to me it means something different to me than it does to most people. When people hear the word “empower” most tend to think of something along the lines of “being in control.”
And while there is truth in that, to me being empowered means something quite different actually. To me it means surrendering; surrendering to the care of the Universe. One of my favorite quotes is from a Course In Miracles and in it says, “If you knew who walked beside you on this path you have chosen you would never experience doubt or fear again.” How incredible is that? And so to me, that is what being empowered means. Surrendering completely to the care of the Universe and letting the Universe lead the way. In this way – and only in this way – can one achieve feel of being in control that they long to have.
I’d love to hear what being empowered means to you! Join the conversation on my closed Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/talkingshiftwithmsg.
Sending much love and gratitude,