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What Is Give A Shift?

What Is Give A Shift?

What Is Give A Shift?

First, you need to know that I love puns.

You’ve been warned.

Where did Give A Shift come from?

I was taught my whole life to “lean in” and to get a seat at the table where the important meetings happen.

And that’s exactly what I did for 25 years.

After graduating from the University of Connecticut’s School of Business, I immediately got a job at an ad agency in New York.

Being the new kid on the block, I knew I had to work extra hard to prove myself.

This meant working 12 hour days and often on weekends in order to meet the seemingly endless demands from often unappreciative clients. Eventually, I rose to the top of this small boutique agency. I was traveling all over the world and making a lot of money for a 20-something-year-old.

That wasn’t enough, so I then went on to pursue my Master’s Degree. I felt this would give me a badge I could proudly display.

My corporate climb continued until there was nowhere else for me to climb.

Phew. I made it, right?!

Nope.

I did what any determined executive would do: I started my own company.

I founded my own marketing agency and using sheer grit, determination, and a 7-day work week, I grew this start-up from 0 to 7-figures in 18 months.

Wow, right?

I had it all, right?!

WRONG.

The problem was that I leaned in so far that I fell over…

Because eventually, my world came crashing down around me.

My 3-year old daughter came home from preschool to give me a card she had made for me for Mother’s Day.

This was a kind of fill in the blank card where the teachers had pre-written sentences and phrases and then helped the children fill in the blank as it relates to his or her mom.

One of the fill in the blanks was, “My mom’s job is to________________________________.

And this is how my daughter answered that question:

“My mom’s job is to sleep at work.”

I read those words and suddenly it felt as if my world stopped.

What my daughter meant was that mommy was never home.

Mommy traveled so much and was always sleeping in hotels and so in her little, sweet, innocent 3-year-old mind, mommy’s job was to sleep at work.

I was obviously aware that I was gone a lot. But I always justified it.

It’s for the sake of our family.

It’s for the sake of the kid’s futures.

Eventually, I will slow down and be able to enjoy the fruits of my hard labor, but not now, I thought.

Now is for working so much that I choose to leave my family week after week.

Now is for working as much as possible chasing every dollar I could.

But it was all for them, right?

In that moment everything changed. I changed.

I started to Give A Shift.

I began to question everything I thought I knew to be true.

I began to turn my focus inward instead of outward.

I began questioning my purpose.  

Who was I?

What was I put on this earth to do?

What kind of business do I really want to create?

What does it really take to be successful and what does success even look like?

What do I want MY LIFE to look like?

And then it hit me. I had spent my whole life trying to be accomplished when all I really wanted was to be FREE!

I had become trapped in a prison of my own making.

But I wanted to be FREE.

FREE from constantly feeling the need to prove myself!

FREE from feeling stressed out trying to do it all!

FREE from feeling guilty any time I wasn’t working, yet at the same time, free from feeling guilty for not being with my family!

FREE from believing that I had to practically kill myself in order to make money and create the life and business I wanted!

FREE to have the life and business OF MY DREAMS!!

FREE To have ANYTHING I WANT without explanation or justification to anyone!!

In finding my freedom, I discovered that I could help other women like me, find theirs.

The Give A Shift System

Helping women live a full life, is my purpose.

Give A Shift is a daily life system that gives women the ability to engineer their own realities and attain unprecedented levels of success in every area of their lives.

I began to realize that I wasn’t the only woman who had “leaned in” only to find they weren’t living a life they love.

More and more women are finding the courage to live a life of freedom.

Okay, Mel isn’t a woman over 40 like me, but he is wearing makeup and a skirt so he can be an honorary member of my tribe.

As our friend above discovered, wanting freedom and finding freedom isn’t the same thing.

The path to freedom isn’t always a clear or easy journey.

Breaking Through The Bullshift

Wouldn’t it be great to have somebody who’s been down that path before to guide you?

Oh hello, that’s me.

The biggest roadblocks on the path to freedom and living your best life are the old outdated belief systems we base our lives on.

I call these Bullshifts!

Once these Bullshifts are busted, we are able to engineer our lives the way we want them to be.

We can live lives full of love, passion, joy, and happiness

Lives built on serving and giving not getting and taking.

Blissful, abundant lives from which we attract more financial abundance than we ever thought possible without killing ourselves or sacrificing our families to do so.  

True lasting success comes from living a life of purpose and meaning.

It means valuing your time with those you love most.

It means giving and serving others first and foremost.

It means imagining what success on your terms looks like.

Once you do this, you too will be free to engineer your own reality any way you want it to be.

You will Give A Shift.

The Real Reason to Ditch the Hustle Lifestyle!

The Real Reason to Ditch the Hustle Lifestyle!

Hustling: It’s become the new “it” word in our culture. The word that “cool people” use to describe their work ethic — you know the ones. The entrepreneurs. The boss babes. It’s the hippest new verb to describe not only the way you work but the way you LIVE.

You know what I am talking about. Hustle is now a LIFESTYLE. You’ve heard the rhetoric:

“Embrace your hustle. Embrace the struggle.”

“Good things happen to those who hustle.”

“My entire life can be summed up in four words: I hustled. I conquered. ”

“The dream is free. The hustle is sold separately.”

“Hustle in silence and let your success make the noise.”

You get the idea…

Somewhere along the way, we have gotten it all wrong.

On the surface, these slogans and inspirational quotes seem harmless, even helpful. After all, we all appreciate some motivation. But beyond the hype, the hustle lifestyle carries unintended consequences.

Let me explain.

The current use of the word hustle, especially when it comes to business, refers to an individual determined to succeed at ALL costs. People who put achievement above all else in their life. Individuals who are determined to create as much external material evidence of their accomplishments as possible.

In contrast, those who don’t hustle have been incorrectly labeled as weak, unwilling to work hard, unambitious, passive, and willing to settle for mediocrity, among other things.

And hustlers? Well, they want everyone to know about it.

I know this because, for two and a half decades, I HUSTLED my ass off! I was the epitome of a hustler. I wore this badge of honor proudly for everyone to see. And, in the event they could not see it for themselves, I somehow always managed to let them know, just in case…

I worked day-in and day-out, hustling to get ahead, hustling to get to the top, hustling to be the best, hustling to win, hustling for recognition, and hustling to chase every dollar I could.

Did it work? I suppose that depends on how you define “work”.

Yes, I did achieve a measure of success. I climbed corporate ladders and built up my own very successful agency.

But I was rarely satisfied, at least for the long term.

Each time I succeeded, the gratification I felt left quickly and I was onto my next quest. What I have come to learn is that success gained on the competitive plane of existence is fleeting and hustling is all about competing.Click To Tweet

I always tried to justify how long I worked, or how often I was away from my family, telling myself over and over again that one day … someday … it would all be worth it.

Hell, like all hustlers, I even pretended to love how much I worked. I said this over and over again to myself, so often that I even started to believe it on some level. That’s what hustling is all about, isn’t it?

But this is total and complete bullshift.

The truth is, the hustling lifestyle? The one that’s been built up as the epitome of success? It sucks!! And now, because of what I’ve learned over the past years, I’m not afraid to say it!

Why are we so obsessed with this unfulfilling lifestyle? Because we have a warped view about what hustling is and we have come to glorify it in every way.

But hustling is NOT directly correlated with success. It is NOT even necessarily correlated with achievement or accomplishment. It is not correlated with lasting happiness, joy, enthusiasm, and passion in one’s life. Hustling has nothing to do with realizing your dreams or your goals.

And it certainly is not indicative of one’s work ethic, passion, and determination!

Yet, we’ve all been duped into believing that that’s exactly what hustling means, right? That those who hustle the hardest succeed the most.  That only those willing to sacrifice everything else will win the biggest prizes. Those who claw and scratch, bulldozing over anything or anyone in their way make it to the top, and that that’s something to be revered, something to be commended!

In fact, what I have realized is that those who hustle, those who brag loudest about how much and how hard they hustle:

  • Have a scarcity mindset
  • Are paranoid about losing
  • Are afraid of competition
  • Have something to prove to themselves and others
  • Are motivated by fear
  • Are terrified of failing
  • Base their value and self-worth on external success

What does this all really mean? That those who hustle most actually lack the most self-confidence. Looking back, I can see that this is exactly where my need to hustle came from as well.

I was horribly bullied in middle school and, as a result, I felt worthless. I believed that the only way to reclaim my sense of self was to become “better” than everyone else. I thought that my external success would validate my worth. And so, for two and a half decades, I hustled to win at everything. I had something to prove–to the bullies, to society, and most of all myself. But hustling doesn’t make it all go away. It just forces us to bury whatever we are trying to run from deeper and deeper.

Since then, I have learned to have the courage to say “To Hell With The Hustle!” I have come to discover a new way, a far more enjoyable way to create the life I really wanted all along, a life bigger and better and more abundant than I could ever imagine, without hustling!

Learning to say “To Hell With The Hustle” was the #1 way I was able to go from Stressed To Blessed and get ANYTHING I want...Click To Tweet

Of course, opting out of the hustle is the first step, but not the only step.

It was the work I did on the INSIDE that mattered most.

I have been able to go from working 80 hours a week to less than 20, doing what I love and serving others (and never on weekends or vacations). My time is spent with the people I WANT to see … not the people I HAVE to see.. I have discovered my purpose and live with more passion and freedom than I ever thought was possible.

And you can, too.

But first, you must have the courage to look deep within yourself and identify why you feel the need to hustle in the first place: What are you trying to prove? Who are you trying to prove it to? What void are you trying to fill? What’s fueling your hustle? You then need to make a commitment to create significant changes in your life. Finally, you need clarity about what you really want your life to look like, and focus all of your energies and passions there. And when you do? You will be on your way to creating a lifestyle filled with the prosperity and freedom you crave.

The time has come for us to redefine what success looks like and to say To Hell With The Hustle, once and for all.

Quantum what?

Many of us have heard the phrase, “That which you focus on expands.” In other words, “thoughts become things.”

But how many of us actually understand how and why this is true?

Enter quantum physics.

For most of my life, I was caught between science and spirituality. I wanted to believe what the great spiritual teachers were preaching — it felt so right and natural, and it made perfect sense to me. But just when I was on the verge of becoming a believer, my scientific intuition would kick in and make me want to prove it.

Luckily for me, I was raised by a self-proclaimed quantum psychics fanatic for a father.

If you aren’t familiar with quantum mechanics, let me explain. For centuries, scientists believed that the atom was the smallest unit of measure. They believed that all physical matter was made of these atomic particles.  But it turns out, there is nothing really physical about anything at all.

Using particle accelerators, physicists have been able to break down the atom into subatomic particles. What they have discovered is that subatomic particles are impulses of information and energy. But what makes them fascinating is they can behave like both a wave and a particle at the same time.

Moreover, subatomic particles have the ability to be in more than one place at the same time, and that’s not all. This impulse, or vibration, of quantum energy becomes either a wave or a particle the moment it is observed by the human mind, and then attracts other impulses of energy that vibrate at the same frequency.

This literally means that we create something and it expands by attracting other things that are similar to it. Pretty astonishing when you think about it, huh?

And, when I realized this, my two worlds of science and spirituality came dancing beautifully together. Suddenly, I understood what the phrase “thoughts become things” actually meant–and why it is so.

We can use the same principles that science uses to create physical reality out of non-physical essence and use it to have, do or be anything we want and experience happiness and fulfillment to any degree we choose.

This knowledge is truly a gift for anyone who recognizes and knows how to apply it to their daily lives. With this knowledge, you can use your thoughts to become the deliberate creator of your own life experiences rather than leaving your life to mere chance, and know why it works.

As quantum physicist Niel Bohr has said, “Everything we call real is made of things that cannot be regarded as real. If quantum mechanics hasn’t profoundly shocked you, you haven’t understood it yet.”

How do you serve?

A dear friend of mine once said that helping and serving others is like Miracle-Gro for your life. I couldn’t agree more.

For me, sharing my message with the world is one way that I get to serve others. But service comes in many shapes and sizes. Anything we can do each day that helps someone else, makes someone feel brighter, grateful, or happy is a way to serve. Service comes various currencies, such as your time, your effort, and yes, your money, no matter how big or how small.

Service gives each of us the power to literally make the world a better, more peaceful, more joyful place. How cool is that? We actually can change the world, and that’s why I love it so much!

But service does more than transform our world. Living a life dedicated to serving others will transform you, too. Your life will begin to change in new and exciting ways. You will see opportunities surface that would not have seen otherwise. You will notice people reacting to you differently, eager to be around you. You will carry a new aura that will become like a magnet to all good things, to the things you envision for your ideal life; and you will see them manifest right before your eyes. Finally, you will simply be a happier person. Deep in your core, you will be full of joy, life, and energy, ready to serve the world!

So, let me ask you: How do YOU serve? Let me know the things you have done–or can do–each day to help others in the comments below. Your ideas will help inspire others to follow in your footsteps. Serve us by sharing how you serve others.

Cheers!
MSG
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Be Like the River…

“Just be like the river, Megan,” was a phrase I heard over and over growing up from my mother.

When I was younger, my Mom dabbled in spirituality. She explored Buddhism, Native American philosophy, and Taoism.  And she extracted bits of each and shared her wisdom with my sister and me. But this phrase in particular always stood out for me.

“What do you mean, Mom?” I would inquire. And my gentle, wise Mom would explain her interpretation of one of the most fundamental Taoist philosophies.

Water is one of the most profound symbols in the entire Tao Te Ching. Lau Tso uses water as a metaphor for how to live a God-conscious life, a life connected to Source Energy, a life connected to the Invisible Intelligence that created the entire Universe. It is a metaphor for how to live an enlightened life, free of competition, envy and jealousy, a life free from resistance, regardless of what may come its way.

When a river is flowing, there are always obstacles that get in its way. Some small ones like pebbles and twigs, others are massive like boulders and entire trees. But none of it ever stops the water’s progressions, no matter how large it may be. The water always finds a way to keep going. It will go over it, under it, or around, but it keeps going nonetheless. And it always takes the path of least resistance and eventually creates a new path forward.

Water is both exquisitely soft and yet mighty and powerful enough to wear down the tallest of mountains. It is patient without exception.

And water is also a symbol of the Tao, of God.  It is invisible, yet everywhere. It is odorless, colorless, and tastelessness yet is the essence of all that lives.

While much of the Tao uses water as a metaphor, verse 8 does so in an extraordinary way:

“The supreme good is like water,

which nourishes all of creation

without trying to compete with it.

It gathers in the low places unpopular with men.

Thus it is like the Tao.

Live in accordance with the nature of things.

In dwelling, live close to the ground.

In thinking, keep to the simple.

In dealing with others, be fair and generous.

In governing, do not try to control.

In work, do what you enjoy.

In family life, be completely present.

When you are content to be simply yourself,

and don’t compare or compete,

everybody will respect you.

One who lives in accordance with nature

does not go against the way of things.

He moves in harmony with the present moment,

always knowing the truth of just what to do.”

Now that I have read the Tao Te Ching myself, I can see precisely what Mom meant all those years ago. Every day I use this metaphor of water in my own life. And now I have passed that incredibly profound wisdom onto my own children.

So remember to use water in your own life to guide you, offer you reassurance, and to remain connected to Source.

“Nothing in the world is softer or weaker than water

Yet nothing is better at overcoming the hard and strong.” (78.1-2)

Yes, every day I try to be like the river, just like Mom said. Thanks, Mom.

 

My answer may surprise you!

My answer may surprise you!

Recently I had the pleasure and privilege of being part of the Empowered Mamas Summit,  a FREE online event, organized by the incredible Carmen Rosas. (You can check it out here: http://tinyurl.com/yc92b5k4).

During my interview, Carmen asked me what being empowered means to me. I think that’s a really interesting question and something that not many people think about. My answer to Carmen might surprise you because to me it means something different to me than it does to most people. When people hear the word “empower” most tend to think of something along the lines of “being in control.”

And while there is truth in that, to me being empowered means something quite different actually. To me it means surrendering; surrendering to the care of the Universe. One of my favorite quotes is from a Course In Miracles and in it says, “If you knew who walked beside you on this path you have chosen you would never experience doubt or fear again.” How incredible is that? And so to me, that is what being empowered means. Surrendering completely to the care of the Universe and letting the Universe lead the way. In this way – and only in this way – can one achieve feel of being in control that they long to have.

I’d love to hear what being empowered means to you! Join the conversation on my closed Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/talkingshiftwithmsg.

Sending much love and gratitude,

xx

MSG