Growing up, my father was an avid gardener. He planted everything from peppers and cucumbers to beans and peas. But his prized crop was always his tomatoes. I remember eating them right off the vine, still warm from basking in the sunshine.
And now that I have my own home, I have tried to carry on his tradition. I do not have room for a garden as big as his so I have taken to try to replicate my dad’s tomatoes. I have been at it for a few years now, though barely coming close to his crops. My plants tend to produce only a handful of red tomatoes rather than by the bushel full like his. Mine are usually small in size, not the size of oranges or grapefruits like his. And mine have lacked the sweet flavor bursting in my mouth like his did. That is, until now.
For the first time ever my tomato plants are flourishing! They are bursting with fruit and I have already harvested my first handful of red tomatoes. They are large and round. But most importantly, their flavor. Oh! Their flavor! They have taken me right back to my childhood.
So what’s the difference? Why now? Why this crop? What have I done differently?
Well, in a sense both nothing, yet everything. Where they are located, how often I water them, and the basics like that have remained the same. But this year I have added one secret, magic ingredient: LOVE. That’s right, love.
Each day, I talk to my plants, I tell them I love them and I tell them how grateful I am for them. I mean, think about it: The Divine, Source Energy, God, whichever you choose to call it, has given us these amazing plants that magically produce fruit (or vegetables) that we can just pluck off their vines and eat. What a miracle! And so I tell my plants this, and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it has been the difference maker.
Thanksgiving is one of my favorite Holidays. I look forward to it all year long. I love the time with my family, the traditions we have, and of course the bountiful autumn meal we share. But I also love when we all get a chance to say what we are thankful for. It always leaves me feeling such a sense of joy and happiness – like light is radiating out of my heart!
But what about the other 364 days a year? Have you ever wondered why we save being thankful, or grateful, for only one designated day a year? What if, on the other hand, we focused on being grateful every day, and got to experience the bliss that comes from living a life of gratitude? Imagine how joyful each day would be. Imagine the miracles that would manifest in your life.
But what does it mean to practice giving gratitude every day? Gratitude. It’s one of those words that is familiar yet awkwardly foreign at the same time. We’ve all heard of gratitude, of being grateful, and most of us know what it means on the surface. But I have come to learn that living a life of gratitude and knowing what it means are two entirely different things.
Many people engage in what I like to call “convenient gratitude.” What do I mean by that? I mean that aside from on Thanksgiving, most people give gratitude only when convenient—especially for the big things in life, or when unexpected gifts suddenly enter their lives. These usually include things big enough or powerful enough to force people to stop, think, be appreciative, and give thanks for what has happened or has been given to them. But this approach to gratitude means that gratitude is a fleeting thing, that it comes and goes. It means that something must first be worthy of our thanks and appreciation for us to grant it gratitude.
Living a conveniently grateful life is where most of us are. It is where I was at one point as well. But so many of us fail to realize that the true power of living a life full of gratitude has a remarkable impact on transforming our lives from one of scarcity and lack to one of utter abundance—abundance of love, joy, happiness, and yes, of course, wealth.
In its most simplistic terms, gratitude is defined as “a feeling of appreciation or thanks.” The problem with this definition is that most people do not feel grateful every moment of every day. They don’t recognize the things—all things, big and small—that they should be grateful for. Most people are oblivious to the beautiful miracles happening all around them throughout the day, and they don’t even recognize that they should be grateful in the first place.
But once you shift your mindset to become focused on the blessings that occur in your life all day long—and give deliberate and focused gratitude to them—your life will begin to transform. You will find yourself looking for these miracles and pausing momentarily to express your gratitude to and for them. You will notice that you’ve started smiling more, started feeling more uplifted. You will walk with your head up and eyes wide open, waiting for every opportunity to be consciously grateful; and by doing so, you will actually attract more and more things into your life to be grateful for. One of my favorite sayings is this: “The more you are grateful for what you have, the more you will have to be grateful for.” Perfect. According to spiritual teacher, thinker, and author Michael Bernard Beckwith, “Nothing new can come into your life unless you are grateful for what you already have.”
There are miracles happening all around us every single day, miracles that until now, you may have been oblivious to the miracle of nature, the miracle of the human body, the miraculous workings of the universe, the migration of birds, the rotation of the planets, the reproduction of life, your breath, your beating heart, all happening miraculously, yet effortlessly, at the same time. The examples are endless. We need only to be grateful for them and aware of them in order to experience their magical power.
When you begin to be grateful for these everyday miracles, you will notice that more and more miracles seem to come into your life. The way you walk through life changes. The curtain of blurriness begins to lift, and behind it you see a world more beautiful than your eyes can truly fathom. Things become crisper, clearer. You smile more because you marvel at these miracles all day long, and you find yourself anxiously looking for the next bit of magic around every turn.
It is my hope that you harness the power of gratitude at your core because a grateful soul will be a magnet for miracles.
The last 5 blog posts debunked 5 of the most common myths people all over the world live their lives according to. I call these, Life’s 5 Biggest Bullshifts!
And I spent nearly all of my life believing and living by these bullshifts. And this led to a life of constant struggle. It led to a life of severe highs followed by severe lows. But what I discovered along the way is nothing short of miraculous. I uncovered universal truths that, once and for all, busted each of these myths and caused them to come tumbling down. Universal truths about the ways the world and the universe operate which allowed me to break the cycle of life I was on and once and for all, design—and live—an abundant life.
Like you may be have been before we busted these bullshifts, I have come to learn that the majority of the world is blind to them too. What’s more is that only a fraction of a percentage of people will ever bust these bullshifts and live in harmony with the 5 Universal Truths in order to create the lives of their dreams.
While I can’t say for certain why this is so, my guess is that the bullshits simply cloud most people’s reality. In some instances, even when people have been exposed to the truth, people fail to change because it is just much easier to keep believing these myths. To make massive transformational change takes deliberate, conscious effort on a daily basis in order to rewire your brain and relinquish the very things that may have been dictating the course of your life for decades and replace them with a whole new belief system. Another reason some people fail at making a total transformation is that to some, these truths just sound too good to be true. To believe them and live by them and enjoy their bounty takes dedication and mental effort each and every day. But eventually, over time and with practice, you will be able to create new memory structure in your brain, and living a life in accordance with the laws of the universe will be absolutely effortless. And the best part? You will be able to live a more blissful, joyful life than you ever imagined.
So, while it does take work in the beginning of this process to remove from your wrists the shackles that have been holding you back, the payoff for doing so is absolutely worth the effort! I know my message won’t resonate with everyone, and that’s fine. But for those of you who are willing to come along with me, I promise that once you understand how to apply this new approach to life, you will begin to unlock the door to your paradise.
Join me next time on Talking Shift where I will share with you step 1 of my 10-step transformation process so you can learn once and for all how to live the life of your dreams!
I have no idea how or why the world has become one superstitious ball of ridiculous jinxing, but it has. For most of my life, I lived in a fictitious world I had created in my head called “the jinx world.” Ever heard of it? Perhaps you too have visited this awful place. Maybe you are still renting a space there.
So many people go around believing that the world is conspiring against them and not for them. And I am calling bullshift on all of this right now, and am smashing Bullshift Number Five which says tonever expect good things to happen, or you will jinx the outcome.
In reality, it is this belief that is actually the very thing holding you back. Believing a desired outcome won’t happen so you don’t jinx it is what is actually preventing you from achieving it in the first place. Stay with me, and I’ll show you exactly how to break free from the curse of the jinx
You see, after experiencing a traumatic experience, many people are often left feeling quite vulnerable. For me, it was the horrific bullying experience that left huge, gaping wounds inside my soul. I sank into a deep depression after one and a half years of enduring constant bullying. The only thing that could snap me out of that depression and near inability to function in the outside world was to put a stake in the ground and take a stand. It became “them” versus “me” for the next twenty-five years. And by “them” I mean literally every other person on the planet, not just the perpetrators of the incident.
Though I vowed never to be treated that way again, the scars remained. My self-worth was stripped away. I lost all sense of confidence. Though I appeared strong on the outside, it was merely an act. And so, as part of my coping mechanism, I created the jinx world in which I lived for two and a half decades.
The jinx world exists for people who don’t feel worthy of achieving things or having good things happen to them. People who live here tell themselves not to expect anything good to happen. They tell themselves not to expect the desired outcome. They don’t dare speak of good fortunes or allow themselves to dream big. Why? Because if they do, they will be placing a “jinx” on the dream, and therefore causing it not to happen. And if by a very slim chance it does happen, they will just say that they have oddly escaped the curse of the jinx. It’s really such an ass-backward way of living, and it is in complete and utter opposition to the way the universe actually operates.
What really happens is that the more we focus on why we are certain something won’t happen, the more it actually doesn’t happen. The more we tell ourselves to expect the inevitable bad outcome to happen, the more it does. But what we fail to realize is that it is our very focus on the bad things—on what we don’t want to happen, on the poor results we are sure to get—that makes these bad things manifest into reality. We respond with a “told you so” mentality without ever realizing for a second that the negative way we perceived the situation is the very thing that caused it to become our reality in the first place. Why? Because we are convinced that the slightest belief in a positive outcome actually jinxes the situation and casts a dreaded, dark spell over us for daring to believe that something good might actually happen. How ridiculous is this?
And so our 5th and final Universal Truth is this: The curse of the jinx does not exist.
Thinking, feeling, and believing steadfastly in your desired outcome is what actually brings the desired outcome into existence.
So say goodbye to the jinx, once and for all, and hello to your new found sense of freedom that comes with knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that you can design and live a life bigger and better than you ever dreamed of before.
So now it’s time to start putting the pieces back together and building your abundant life. Are you ready?
Recall from an earlier post that Bullshift Number Three is the belief that you should not ask for more than your fair share in life because there isn’t enough to go around.
This belief stems from the fact that somehow along the way, living a life of sacrifice, lack, and limitation has become noble. It’s as if sacrifice has mistakenly gotten confused with sharing or generosity. To dream big and want abundance in our lives is perceived as selfish and greedy. Bullshift again! Nothing could be further from the truth.
Turns out, abundance is our birthright, and creating as much abundance in our lives is in line with the very highest level of universal consciousness. The universe wants you to be abundant, wants each of us to be abundant, and then share our abundance with our families, relatives, friends, societies, and the world! The more abundant you are, the more you have to give and share with others. Sacrifice and limitation regress humankind. Abundance makes the world flourish!
Universal Truth 3: Infinite resources are at your command.
I grew up in a loving home with two of the kindest and most supportive parents ever. Both of my parents grew up poor, though my mother was deeply poor. When I say “deeply poor,” I’m talking about no bathroom or hot water inside of the two-bedroom apartment she shared with her four brothers and mother. When my mother was just seven years old, my grandfather died, suddenly forcing my grandmother, my Babci as she was fondly called, to go to work in the factory. My mom, being the only girl, was charged with playing “mom” for her four older brothers. My mom grew up during a time when women didn’t speak up, didn’t really have their own voices. So when she later became a mom of two daughters, she was determined that her girls would be strong, independent women.
But while my sister and I were taught that we could achieve anything we wanted, remnants from my parents’ deprived upbringing also crept into their teachings. We were taught not to take more than our fair share, and to be content with what we had because naturally, they believed that we lived in a world of scarcity that lacked resources. This mentality was always confusing to me. I was an overachiever by nature, and when I hit one milestone, I would naturally want to set new goals, new heights to reach. But often my mom viewed this as not being content with what I had. Why did I have to keep reaching, keep climbing? She seemed to think that once I had reached my goal, I should remain there and be happy—because there were finite resources available. Why take or ask for more than my share?
The answer? Abundance. This was the one word that would forever alter the state of my perception. It is one of the most powerful and transformative words I know. It turns out that we live in a world full of abundance! Not only that, but abundance is actually our birthright, and it is up to us to create and ask for as much abundance as we want. Period. Without explanation. Without justification. Without feelings of guilt or apology. Every single human being that has ever walked this planet—or will walk the planet—can create as much abundance in his or her life as she chooses. When you can truly grasp that concept, your life will be changed forever too. Can you fathom how freeing this realization actually is?
Shifting to a mindset of abundance takes work, but it can be done, and I will show you exactly how to do it. It starts with believing, truly believing, that the universe—the Creator, God, or whatever you want to call it—is one of affluence and prosperity. The more abundant each of us is, the more abundance we create for the world. The more abundant the world becomes, the more we have to give and share with the world.
As Deepak Chopra so eloquently says, “We are privileged children, and the universe has chosen to share its bounty with us.” It is up to each of us to create as much abundance as our hearts desire. We can each live in a state as affluent and as prosperous as we want. Our abundance has nothing to do with the abundance of others, and theirs has nothing to do with ours. The universe keeps creating again and again. We have only to put our attention on abundance, and it will be ours.
And just like that we busted three of Life’s 5 Biggest Bullshifts and replaced them with new Universal Truths, the truths that will become the foundation on which you build your abundant life. I am so excited for you and for all that is to come.